Can You Really Love Your Second Baby as Much as Your First? A Mama’s Heartfelt Truth

Before having kids, I wondered how mothers of multiple kids divided their love. How did they give each child the love and attention they gave the first? When I was pregnant with my second, I carried this fear. Irrational or not, I often wondered, would I love this baby as much as I love my first? My firstborn was my ride-or-die, and I was his. Surviving the trenches of newborn and new mother life made us even closer; we're locked in. I often felt my heart melt every time we hugged, or looked into his eyes, heard his laugh, watched him sleep, and more. I sound a little stalkerish, but ya'll know what I mean, lol. The unconditional love I felt for my firstborn made me wonder, was there even room left in my heart for another?

Don't get me wrong, I was excited and grateful to be pregnant with my second son, I just couldn't process how I could love another little human as intensely as the one depending on me now. Well, something wild happened: the moment I held my second child, I realized that love doesn't divide, it multiplies. And when my third came along, I felt it again: that rush of unconditional love. Not split in thirds. No little bit of love for you, a little for you, and a little bit for you. My heart was whole for all of them!

It turns out, a mother's heart doesn't shrink or get diluted by sharing. It stretches. It expands. It grows with each child. Somehow, it always makes room. To the mama who's scared she won't have enough to give, take heart, and remember you will. You already do. Your heart was built for this kind of love. Enjoy!