F.E.A.R: Creating a Healthy Relationship With The Most Hated F-word

We've all experienced that gut-wrenching feeling, that sinking pit in our stomach.

It's the emotion that has haunted us from our childhood monsters-under-the-bed days to our adult fear-of-failure nights. Yes, I'm talking about fear. But what if I told you that our relationship with fear might be misunderstood? We had the pleasure of reevaluating our "fears" with Elizabeth Azeizat, an incredible mindset coach from In One Piece, LLC. Here are some insights from our discussion:

Fear often feels like an uninvited guest at our life's party. But here's the twist, as Elizabeth points out: fear isn't the enemy we perceive it to be. Instead, it's a complex emotion that's evolved, initially meant to protect us. But somewhere along the line, it got a little... ratchet.

Our fears aren't just surface-level jitters; they're complex and layered. They stem from deep-seated beliefs, past experiences, and observations. For example, during our conversation, I shared a vulnerable story about how my fear of relationships was rooted in the lack of seeing healthy relationships as a child. But here's the kicker: I craved a good relationship while being fearful of it!

One of Elizabeth's insights that genuinely resonated was that fear often masquerades itself. For some, it's a motivator. For others, it's a protective shield. Yet, for many, it becomes a roadblock. During our conversation, Elizabeth revealed that her fear of swimming wasn't just about the water. It was the more profound fear of not being able to save herself. The moment you shine a light on your fear, its disguise starts to fall apart.

The route to mastering our fears isn't about getting rid of them. Instead, it's about understanding, accepting, and then reshaping our relationship with them. Elizabeth emphasizes that it's not about overcoming fear but building a different relationship with it.

Tricia living her best life... with fear!

My journey from fear of relationships to finding love and building a family is an inspiring testament to this idea. By confronting and understanding my fears, I didn't let them define my destiny.

The conversation between Elizabeth and I was a rollercoaster of emotions and insights. It's a gentle reminder that everyone, even a mindset coach, grapples with fear. Here's the silver lining: we have the power to redefine our relationship with it.

Remember, fear is a part of us, but it doesn't define us. As Liz beautifully summed it up, fear is waiting for us to tell it what to do. It's time we took the reins!